Diary, Health

It is the time for Whaaat?

2014 has sped away like a roller coaster in full speed, with all its ups and downs and it feels like it is time to take stock. But am i the stock taking types?No. That would be husbands profession – (Logistics and Supply chain). So we shall not interfere. We shall stick to the resolutions for the year. Cause according to about 80% of the global average population, it is must do activity. In all honesty, they are just for the first month and in some cases last only 1 week.Nevertheless we shall make them this year, just like every other year past. In retrospection, I really to buckle up. So this year, lets make them SMART. And schedule some reviews. Tedious? Yes. Works? Apparently Yes yes.

1. Sleep a little less. (now i need some serious commitment to get this going. I made this resolution  last year, practised and woke up at 9 on 1st Jan 2015. Phew!)

2. Less TV and increase daily productivity ( lock away the remote and throw the key into the bottom of the sea)

3. Eat home cooked food – all 3 meals – for atleast 5 days a week. (Brownie points for making the husband very happy)

4. Gym more and be regulat ( its not enough to buy fancy shoes and bag. Must put them to use!! No seriously)

5. Read atleast 1 book per week. ( Without TV, this is very much achievable)

6. Live within a budget. ( more money for my precious electronics. Hehe)

Now for the smart bit.The Specific,Measurable,acheivable,realistic,timebound aspects – I have decided the specific bit is all i am going until. The measuring is gonna happen with a planner and review shall happen in 3 months. Hehe . Lets see. So here goes.

As much as I have all this shaped up, I am still craving for sleep and sloth, my eternal friend. I plan to shake them off and start of new activities surrounding the blog this coming year. Yup, new stuff coming up in 2015!!

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Diary, Food, Me

A box of lunch – after so many years

 Today at about 1330hrs, I opened my lunch box. It was nothing odd, nothing new but it certainly was different.

Until 1995-2001, every school day, lunch was home made curd rice+vegetable of the day. 2 tiny boxes, waiting to opened at 1220hrs. Most people would find it a bit boring/repetitive to carry the same food everyday but I somehow found it comforting. The routine and the predictability of the contents of  my box actually made me look forward to the lunch hour at school. I was never a good student and was usually upto no good. Among all the live-wires I never knew when I might trip, this box of lunch was the only constant. If I got to it, I got through half my day safe. On the days when i was relatively safe, it gave the luxury of extra time to run around, play and be upto to more useless stuff. But on days I was keen on playing volleyball, or had work to do for house I belonged to, or had March-past practice, it turned out a real blessing. Continue reading

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30th, Diary, life

On being 30.

I was born on 11 Apr 1984. Yesterday, I turned 30. And as I look back on those years, I realise I have so much to tell. About my life. About what goes on in my head. Where I stand at the turn of this decade and what special challenges I face. How I handle them and I hopes & opportunities they bring along. 
I did not have a blog when I was 20. I did not care for what it was then. I probably should have started writing then, considering I used to chatter incessantly then. Documenting it would have been quite fun actually. But I did not. So, here is me, writing at 30. When I started off, I couldn’t really start right away with whagt i wanted to say now. So I made of list of things to talk about at this juncture.
I made a list:
1. A list of things I am grateful for – when I mentally composed this, I actually had quite a list. Surprising!!
2. A list of things I am proud of – not much here.
3. My goals before I reach my next decade – quite a few actually. Health a priority.
4. The dreams I have currently. – quite a few. I want to act on them for sure. Let’s see
5. Lessons learnt so far – I needed to think hard on this one. I need a pen and paper
6. Aspects of me I would like to change – whole host here !! No surprises!
7. My regrets – Oh I have these too (despite my all smileys face).
And then I decided to write about the more mundane things. A few things really made made my day( Gifts! Yay!!) and taught me important lessons as well. 
First I received quite some gifts. People were very generous this year. While I bought myself a bracelet to commemorate this year, I got a perfume bottle, a nexus tab, a wad of cash, a cake, a load of wishes from friends. Blessed aint I. My mom decided it is the right time to have a chat with me about patience,tolerance and the compromises I would need to make with a smile on my face to make my sleep easier and days peaceful, on what I should prioritize and what I could afford to leave behind. Moms really are god gentle angels. They know exactly what to say when. My stoic Dad also decided to break into a smiles and hugs. And so did my frail old loves – my Granddad and Grandmom. My sister got me the cake and took me out for a dessert under the skies at 2200hrs and we ate in quiet closeness. What a day and what an awesome ending. It really was a day that got etched into my memory like words carved deep into stone. A day I can never forget for other reasons too – ever. 
Come to think of it, I really do stand at the brink of a whole new world. I am stepping into a new job. Moving to a new city. Setting up a home of my own with my husband. All ready to take on a whole new set of challenges. While I should have started off on these a while ago, now is when life has presented me these opportunities. I am looking for the lessons in store for me in this decade. 
I truly believe that I stand a brink of a strength test now. I am really stepping into the furnace with so many changes happening all at once. I think I might need new shoes for this journey but for now the excitement would do. 
 I think i will mark my landmark decade years with posts all year through. Probably I’

ll start of with the list aboveNot really regular, but a series nevertheless. It will be something to look back on when I do get older.Hmm.

P.s : I am really glad that this time, I got personalised wishes direct to me instead of wishes created through social media frenzy. All those who remembered to wish me on 11th Apr, thank you, love you.
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Diary, Inspiration, Khushwant Singh

10 Life Lessons from Khushwant Singh

I have found that sometimes I get sad for no reason. I wonder if it is a simple mood swing or if it my inner self telling me I need movement.and a lot more to life. So while I was searching for some inspiration, Khushwant Singh came to my rescue. And here is what he has to say. Although it is predominantly leading one to accept death, there are very valuable lessons about life too here. And when I look at my life, I find i have not done /am not doing ANY of the items on the list. While it is late for resolution, a bucket list is never late. I am going to try to tick of as many of these as possible by the end of  2014. Lets see.

“I’ve lived a reasonably contented life. I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

  •         First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.
  •         Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.
  •         Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.
  •         Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time.
  •         Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.
  •         Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gup-shup. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.
  •         Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfil you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully. I have family members and friends who spend their entire day caring for stray dogs, giving them food and medicines. There are others who run mobile clinics, treating sick people and animals free of charge.
  •        Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.
  •         Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.
  •         Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a man without any regret or grievance against anyone.  Iqbal said it beautifully in a couplet in Persian: “You ask me about the signs of a man of faith? When death comes to him, he has a smile on his lips.”  

         – Khushwant Singh

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Diary, Me

I do/will not

Read non fiction
Enjoy too many Tamil movies
Appreciate authority
Refuse coffee
Talk about my feelings
Put books down
Resist tears
Diet sincerely
Cover my anger
Work out diligently
Love indefinitely
Waste time on those who make me feel inferior
Play Candycrush
Suffer in silence
Do today what I can do tomorrow
Leap before look
Write regularly
Change easily
And Finish this list
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Diary, Me, Poetry

Inspiration for 2014

I have been looking at an old and worn out poetry book that my grandfather gave me as a gift and found some really lovely poems to read, all from the  romantic  period. Literature buffs will understand “romantic” in the right sense. For the others, I am not going to explain. I chanced upon Daffodils and I was drawn back to 3 of my all time favorites –  From a railway carriage, Daffodils and IF. Although I love a lot more works, these three are my top three. I memorized them as a child, understood them as I grew and love them now. Their simplicity, their practicality and the childlike joy I get when I read them is simply beyond words. The book was only on romantic poetry, no IF or From a Railway Carriage. So, I mentally recited them while sipping on my coffee and felt myself transported to the days when I wore pigtails.

As I stand at the brink of a whole new year, IF takes a special place. Its timeless and universal relevance now gains focus as I look at the things I want to accomplish in 2014 and count back on the things left undone in the past year. Sometimes I think it needs a lot of strength to apply this thoughts in this poem to real life and that I will fail miserably. But this is poem is all about getting up and walking on. Its all about seeing how  many punches you can take and still keep standing, Rocky Balboa style. Not that I have been punched a lot. But just that I need inspiration.

Here is IF for all of you.
 
Image from:  http://alkimie.com/?p=267

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:



If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!


– Kipling

The Image is from John Young’s website, apparently it is the cover of this postcard sized 1910 edition of IF. So vintage. So Beautiful.

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